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  • 4 Ways to Take Control of Your Shopping Life NOW
    4 Ways to Take Control of Your Shopping Life NOW The reason why you overshop is unique to you. How it impacts your life as you spiral out of control falls into several patterns that look like this: Financial Devastation You may or may not be in serious debt. If you’re in debt, the interest on that debt is compounding at an alarming rate. Just take a look at your credit card statement. There is a box on there required by law to show you how many years it will take to pay off your balance if you pay the… Continue reading 4 Ways to Take Control of Your Shopping Life NOW
  • DEFEND YOURSELF AGAINST THESE BLACK FRIDAY WORD TRIGGERS
    DEFEND YOURSELF AGAINST THESE BLACK FRIDAY WORD TRIGGERS This year, our Master Money Coach, Carrie Rattle, MBA, CDFA wrote our traditional Black Friday blog post. Carrie is available for individual coaching and guided self-help coaching. I was reading a catalog yesterday to find a window blind. One summary describing a certain blind and curtains read this way: “This window was desperately needing some color and attention”.  DESPERATELY – as in urgent, and life-threatening.  It is fair to say that a window undressed will never be a desperate situation, and yet the description can trigger an immediate need in some of… Continue reading DEFEND YOURSELF AGAINST THESE BLACK FRIDAY WORD TRIGGERS
  • Behavioral Addiction Recovery: A Guide for Families, Friends, Colleagues, and Roommates
    We were recently introduced to an excellent article, Behavioral Addiction Recovery: A Guide for Families, Friends, Colleagues, and Roommates. What defines a behavioral addiction, how one develops, and how to support a loved one in recovery from a behavioral addiction are all covered in the piece. You can access the full guide here: onlinepsych.pepperdine.edu/blog/behavioral-addiction-recovery-tips/ *OnlinePsychology@Pepperdine, the Online Master of Psychology program from Pepperdine University   Warm regards, April Lane Benson, Ph.D. Founder, Stopping Overshopping, LLC
  • How to Keep Black Friday from Becoming Red Saturday
    How to Keep Black Friday from Becoming Red Saturday This year we’re taking a different approach to connecting with you about holiday shopping and spending. Rather than write holiday blogposts, we’re holding several Facebook live events that we hope will feel like holiday experience gifts to each of you. As soon as those are scheduled, we’ll be sending out the details. By the time Thanksgiving arrives one week from today, many of us will be in significant danger of overshopping as a response to the stress, anxiety and, all too often, despair, that the holiday can evoke. If you’re reading… Continue reading How to Keep Black Friday from Becoming Red Saturday
  • I Got One Hand in My Pocket and a Mind Free of Worry
    I Got One Hand in My Pocket and a Mind Free of Worry   We learned about the possibility of offering a guided self-help tool from our Program Manager, Steven Rubin, MSW, who used a tool on Mentegram and found it quite helpful.  This is his report: “You may be wondering how an app can possibly help you stop overshopping and overspending. I was pondering a similar question when I first downloaded Mentegram to address my anxiety and depression. I was skeptical. Yet, it was instrumental in helping me to: 1.Become aware of my automatic and distorted thoughts. 2.Witness the… Continue reading I Got One Hand in My Pocket and a Mind Free of Worry
  • How to Resist the Perfect Storm of August Overshopping Triggers
    How to Resist the Perfect Storm of August Overshopping Triggers The end of summer can be one of the most challenging times of the year for overshoppers. Three compelling sources: end of summer sales, back-to-school deals, and the new fall fashions all come together at the same time to create the “perfect storm” for compulsive buying chaos. A few years summers ago, I did a teleseminar with Debbie Roes, who wrote the blog, Recovering Shopaholic: Trade Your Full Closet for a Full Life. On the call, we discussed the three most common mistakes people make as a result of this seasonal… Continue reading How to Resist the Perfect Storm of August Overshopping Triggers
  • The Genie Has Arrived: Stop Overshopping Now
    The Genie Has Arrived: Stop Overshopping Now Last week actor Cheryl Stern and I spent an hour together. Sometimes silly, sometimes serious, we talked about her overshopping story and how it became the subject of her one woman musical Shoes and Baggage, returning to New York for a limited run later this month. The two of us got a little silly when instead of typing “it’s going onsale,” for her answer to the question, “What if I wait?,” about the proposed purchased of a bathing suit, Cheryl had typed “I’m going insane.” I hope Freud would have had a wonderful laugh over… Continue reading The Genie Has Arrived: Stop Overshopping Now
  • Can Time Away Promote Shopping Self-Awareness?
    A vacation and time away with family can be an inadvertent opportunity for self-awareness, self-discovery, and reflection.  Recently, our friend and guest blogger Toni Marie took a long anticipated family vacation.  With humor and heart, she chronicles the triumphs and challenges of being on a family vacation during which strong urges to shop and buy surfaced often. After spending her second day repeatedly distracted by the thought of Vince Camuto sandals and how to resist the urge to buy them, she mused, “Wouldn’t it be better to own less but really love what I’m wearing? This “AHA” moment as she… Continue reading Can Time Away Promote Shopping Self-Awareness?
  • Sale Brain: How to rewire yours
    Sale Brain: How to Rewire Yours Don’t let discounts blind you to hard numbers. We have become obsessed with the word, “sale.” Dictionary.com, that 21st century OED we don’t have to find on the shelf, defines sale as a noun, with three related shades of meaning. Sale refers to: the act of selling. a quantity sold. opportunity to sell Steven, our Program Manager, and I are scratching our heads as we write this. That’s certainly not how either of us would define the word “sale.”  However, the more we researched it, the clearer it got. Sale, defined as a period during which a retailer sells… Continue reading Sale Brain: How to rewire yours
  • Fabric from Food Waste? No Need to Scrap Fashion
      Fabric from Food Waste? No Need to Scrap Fashion From dissolving thread, fabric made from food waste to clothes made from algae, the winners of this year’s Global Change Award are trying to plot a new way forward for a fashion industry that’s been too focused on disposable clothing. These innovative, out-of-the-box alternatives to disposable clothing are made entirely with sustainable materials. Both literally and figuratively, they’re reweaving the warp and woof of fashion, in the process nudging us toward safeguarding our planet and our living conditions. Fashion Revolution, a nearly five year old non-profit that arose from the… Continue reading Fabric from Food Waste? No Need to Scrap Fashion
  • Can Confessions Be Funny? What One Overshopper Has to Say
    You may remember these two recent blog posts, an overshopper named Lynn. Believe it or Not, It’s True: Nordstrom and I Are Through (Part I) and Believe it or Not, It’s True: Nordstrom and I Are Through (Part II) These posts are what she wrote for the dialogue exercise, a part of our program where you construct a dialogue between yourself and something that’s central to your overshopping.  In Lynn’s case it was her Nordstrom credit card. Lynn is back with an additional post, this time something she wrote for a humor writing class,   All humor aside, she’s someone who keeps… Continue reading Can Confessions Be Funny? What One Overshopper Has to Say
  • The “Smiled Upon” Addiction: An article from Glamour Magazine
    “If someone tells you,  you have a problem, cut them off. You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life.”  Thus begins Glamour magazine’s recent article, 10 things you only know if you’re addicted to sale shopping. Brashly glamorizing addiction to sale shopping, one subcategory of shopping addiction, this piece ranks a close second to the Barney’s ad from well over a decade ago, imploring readers to take their emotional baggage, fill it with mood enhancing bargains, and get in touch their “inner shopper.”  These are the messages that trivialize and perpetuate the “smiled upon addiction.” The article lists… Continue reading The “Smiled Upon” Addiction: An article from Glamour Magazine
  • Unbelievable, but it’s true, Nordstrom and I are Through: Part II
    Part II   Lynn, an active, involved stay-at-home mother of four, is a client of mine who initially came to see me five years ago because of a long history of overshopping and overspending, mounting debt, and the stress on her marriage that this had caused.  During the six months we worked together, she made a great deal of headway. By the time we stopped working together, all her debt had been paid off, she had come clean to her husband and she was feeling confident that her shopping and spending problems were well under control. I received a call… Continue reading Unbelievable, but it’s true, Nordstrom and I are Through: Part II
  • Experience Gifts Trump Stuff Every Time: Read What Actor Cheryl Stern Has to Say
    We’re delighted to share a guest post to share with you from the wonderful Cheryl Stern. Broadway veteran actress and Jonathan Larson Award-winning writer, Cheryl just received critical acclaim Off-Broadway for her new solo show, Shoes and Baggage, with music by Tom Kochan. Cheryl’s Broadway credits include the 2010 Tony Award Winning revival of La Cage Aux Folles, starring Kelsey Grammer, The Women with Cynthia Nixon, Jennifer Tilly and Kristen Johnston, (Roundabout; filmed for PBS) and Laughing Room Only. Cheryl was also featured in Fiorello at Encores/NY City Center and in Candide at NY City Opera.   Cheryl says: After sharing an… Continue reading Experience Gifts Trump Stuff Every Time: Read What Actor Cheryl Stern Has to Say
  • On Compulsive Buying: And Then There are the Holidays
    We’ve been fortunate that Kathleen Gemmell, an eclectic  author and former compulsive buyer offered us a guest post about her own recovery journey which began four years ago, when her son, who could no longer sit by and watch his mother buy herself into oblivion, arranged for an “intervention.”  Kathleen Gemmell loves playing with written words. Currently penning for five online sites and magazines, Kathy is a storyteller, an animal welfare proponent, a psychology buff and a dreamer. We thank her dearly for sharing her story with us.       You can read Kathleen‘s post below:   On Compulsive… Continue reading On Compulsive Buying: And Then There are the Holidays
  • Lonely? Broke? How to stay social and solvent during the holidays
    Lonely? Broke? How to stay social and solvent during the holidays.   Does it feel like you’ve been sold a bill of goods about the holidays? Did you grow up hearing that the holidays are the most wonderful time of the year? Do you feel the added stress of holiday expectations?   For many people, the holidays are actually some of the most difficult times of the year, challenging and potentially isolating.   Here are five doable suggestions for staying connected and resisting the temptation to overshop at this time of year, click here: Volunteer: In helping others in your… Continue reading Lonely? Broke? How to stay social and solvent during the holidays
  • Spending Less by Breaking Money Silence Over the Holidays
    This is a guest post written by my colleague Kathleen Kingsbury,  whose work and personhood I’ve admired for quite a long time. She is a a wealth psychology expert, founder of KBK Wealth Connection, host of the Breaking Money Silence™ podcast, and the author of several books. She’s just published a book called Breaking Money Silence : Shatter Money Taboos by Helping Your Clients Openly Discuss Their Finances   In this post, which she’s written especially for us, you’ll read her very original and potentially transformative suggestions about:   Spending Less by Breaking Money Silence Over the Holidays The holiday… Continue reading Spending Less by Breaking Money Silence Over the Holidays
  • Unbelievable, but it’s true…. Nordstrom and I are through! (Part I)
    One of the most revelatory and ultimately powerful tools in the Shopaholicnomore program is the dialogue. The purpose of the dialogue is to gain a deeper awareness of your relationship with something that you are overshopping for or something you use in order to overshop.   It might be that 8th pair of black boots, an evening dress from your favorite online shopping site, or for something we use in order to overshop, like a credit card.   The following is a dialogue that an overshopper named Lynn recently had with her Nordstrom credit card, several days after she actually… Continue reading Unbelievable, but it’s true…. Nordstrom and I are through! (Part I)
  • Compulsive Buying Making You Feel Isolated? Knowing That You’re Not Alone Can Make A Big Difference
    Compulsive Buying Making You Feel Isolated? Knowing That You’re Not Alone Can Make A Big Difference Do you feel alone, isolated, ashamed, or gulity about your shopping problem. So many of us do, which makes it so much harder to tackle. Knowing that you’re not alone can make a big difference. Although you might have a hard time finding people who can relate to your struggles, there are quite a few resources to turn to, so reports Jill Chivers. Recently featured on the Australian television show “A Current Affair,” Jill talked about what inspired her to begin talking openly with hundreds of… Continue reading Compulsive Buying Making You Feel Isolated? Knowing That You’re Not Alone Can Make A Big Difference
  • These Shoes and Baggage Fit Most Shopaholics
    Touched, tickled, and terribly impressed, I left last Wednesday’s performance of Cheryl Stern’s Shoes and Baggage feeling buoyed and hopeful that compulsive buying may yet really come out of the closet, and this time for good! As this funny, poignant, and thoughtful one-woman musical odyssey opens, the audience is bombarded with a plethora of advertising images, sale signs and the like, flicking on and off a large screen in rapid-fire succession. To see a 34 second promo video of the show that begins with these images Click Here  From the show’s website: Shoes and Baggage is about the insatiable urge… Continue reading These Shoes and Baggage Fit Most Shopaholics
  • Common Fall Shopping Mistakes
    And Fall Fashions Calling You? Resources to Help You Resist the Pull! The end of summer can be one of the most challenging times of year for overshoppers. Three compelling sources: end of summer sales, back-to-school deals, and the new fall fashions all come together at the same time to create the “perfect storm” for compulsive buying chaos. A few years summers ago, I did a teleseminar with Debbie Roes, who wrote the blog, Recovering Shopaholic: Trade Your Full Closet for a Full Life. On the call, we discussed the three most common mistakes people make as a result of this seasonal pressure and offered many tools, tips, and… Continue reading Common Fall Shopping Mistakes
  • Are you a Compulsive Buyer?
    You’re Not Alone– This Blog Can Help  To Buy or Not To Buy? – it’s a question we ask and answer almost every day, and sometimes multiple times a day. For many people, it doesn’t cause a lot of inner turmoil, but if you are a compulsive buyer, it’s a high stakes question, and an affirmative answer can be devastating. Long trivialized as the “smiled-upon” addiction, thankfully, compulsive buying is coming farther and farther out of the closet, and the release of movies like Confessions of a Shopaholic is bringing the problem into the limelight. We have reason to believe… Continue reading Are you a Compulsive Buyer?
  • Why Scrap Fasion?
    Last Thursday, I spent the afternoon at the Lower East Side Girls Club in New York City and left feeling more inspired than ever to help people explore mindful consumption. In no way does anyone need to scrap fashion for lack of funds. Let me explain. Debra Rapoport, one of the advanced fashionistas I’d written about in “How Can Advanced Style Be a Retreat from Compulsive Buying” (July, 10, 2016) (Click Here), has done workshops at the Club and  invited me to attend a luncheon and fashion show there. Serving girls from 6th-12th grades, all of whom come from one of the… Continue reading Why Scrap Fasion?
  • Can’t find enough compulsive buying recovery resources? Open this treasure chest!
    Have you ever run a Google search to see what compulsive buying self-help resources are out there, but come up with next to nothing? Shopping addiction is definitely a lesser-known, infrequently-discussed, and rarely-diagnosed disease, so finding information about and strategies to battle it can be a real struggle. Fortunately, Debbie Roes has gathered a great many resources, services, guides, and tips for anyone on, or just beginning, the road to recovery. Everything she discusses in this blog post will be invaluable to someone recovering from a shopping addiction. We’ve highlighted some of the most useful resources: Advice and Information About… Continue reading Can’t find enough compulsive buying recovery resources? Open this treasure chest!
  • Afraid of missing out on a purchase? Be savvy to the advertising techniques that get you to spend
    Imagine yourself walking into a store, any store: The products are likely displayed in a beautiful array, near the front windows; there are sales people scattered around to help you with anything you need; and there are bright advertisements hanging from the ceilings, pasted on the walls, on stands near the checkout, that scream, “Sale!” “Limited time only!” and “Only a few left in stock!” Are these bright notices just space-fillers to capture your attention, or do they have a more crafty purpose? I recently read an article in Shopify that discussed all the tactics a company will use to… Continue reading Afraid of missing out on a purchase? Be savvy to the advertising techniques that get you to spend
  • Is online shopping the next danger zone for compulsive buyers?
    It might be easier to kick our shopping addictions if the temptations existed only outside our of homes, but with the growing popularity of online shopping, we’re not even safe there. Though there are several papers that focus on compulsive shopping, not as many have factored into their research the impact of online shopping. However, I recently read a paper by Susan Rose and Arun Dhandayudham that focused on just this. They explored some of the positive and negative feelings people experienced when online shopping, and how might these emotions trigger a compulsive buying binge. This study cites seven variables… Continue reading Is online shopping the next danger zone for compulsive buyers?
  • Clothes shopping your downfall? Time to change the way you approach personal style!
    When it comes to overspending, clothes are the downfall for many. We see an ensemble in a store window that we think we don’t already have in our closets, or justify our spending sprees because what we purchased was on sale or bought second-hand. I’m Veronica Grace Taleon, Program Manager at Stopping Overshopping, and I wanted to share some interesting information with our community. An article in Darling Magazine took a new approach to the issue of filling our closets with unneeded materials. Rebecca Jacobs, who once claimed to have an unhealthy relationship with shopping, now helps women fight the… Continue reading Clothes shopping your downfall? Time to change the way you approach personal style!
  • Could reinvention solve your shopping addiction?
    Could reinvention solve your shopping addiction? A recent article on BBC took a very interesting perspective on the fashion industry and overconsumption. This is the first time I’d ever read about fashion companies—even really big names, like H&M and Zara—that were trying to find a model where they could promote sustainability by creating blends of recycled clothing. If you’ve read my blog before, you know that I really support this idea. There’s something about it in the post I wrote “Can Advanced Style Be a Retreat From Compulsive Buying.” Additionally, during my recent trip to South Africa where I was… Continue reading Could reinvention solve your shopping addiction?
  • Tying Together Two More Continents: But This Time As A Psychologist
    I’m leaving today for Australia, where I’ll be giving three daylong workshops for Australian psychologists, in the theory and treatment of compulsive buying disorder. Since 2003, when I first launched my website, there has been a good deal of interest in compulsive buying in Australia and I was delighted and grateful to be invited by the Australian Psychological Society Institute to do workshops in Melbourne, Sydney, and Brisbane. When I left Australia last January, having been there with my husband for vacation and to meet relatives whom I’d never met and only learned of a few years before, I decided… Continue reading Tying Together Two More Continents: But This Time As A Psychologist
  • Tie-ing Together Two Continents: My Holiday Experience Gift Part II
    Two weeks ago, I returned from an incredibly heart-warming and productive nine days at Camp Sizanani, a camp for HIV/AIDS affected teenagers from the greater Johannesburg area. My role at camp was to be an arts and crafts counselor and in the post I wrote before I left, I described that I was bringing materials for an art project that I was going to teach which I called Tie-ing Together Two Continents. Using ties, shoelaces and other supplies that had been donated by my neighbors, the counselors and campers made colorful, inventive, original wearable art, all while singing and dancing! To watch a… Continue reading Tie-ing Together Two Continents: My Holiday Experience Gift Part II
  • Tie-ing Together Two Continents: My Holiday Experience Gift
    Tomorrow I’m flying to Johannesburg where I’ll be one of two American counselors at Camp Sizanani,* a camp for HIV-AIDS affected teens who come from Soweto, a large township rich in the history of the struggle against apartheid.  Poor housing and infrastructure, overcrowding, and high unemployment are still the norm.  In addition to regular camp activities; sports, theatre, storytelling, dance, poetry, and arts and crafts, HIV/AIDS prevention education and life skills are integral components of the program. I’m bringing two large duffel bags, filled with an impressive assortment of fabric remnants, shoelaces, zippers, seam bindings and dozens and dozens of… Continue reading Tie-ing Together Two Continents: My Holiday Experience Gift
  • How Can Advanced Style be a Retreat from Compulsive Buying?
    Surrounded at dinner recently by six maverick women, ranging in age from their late 30’s into their 70’s, each dressed in the most creative, non-conformist, ensemble, how could it be that I was writing down the names of thrift stores? Each of these women looked like a million bucks, if not two or three. We had all gathered at the invitation of Debra Rapoport, whose signature paper towel hats are the single most arresting piece of clothing I’ve seen in an age. (Both Merle and Debra are wearing them in the photos below.) I’d met Debra at a class that I… Continue reading How Can Advanced Style be a Retreat from Compulsive Buying?
  • Are You Making Payments Too Quickly?
    Forward​ ​movement,​ ​if​ ​we​ ​want​ ​to​ ​call​ ​it​ ​that,​ ​in​ ​Industry​ ​and​ ​technology​ ​has​ ​made​ ​monetary transactions​ ​faster​ ​than​ ​a​ ​speeding​ ​bullet.​ ​​ ​Today​ ​it’s​ ​common​ ​to​ ​be​ ​able​ ​to​ ​make​ ​and​ ​pay​ ​for​ ​a purchase​ ​simply​ ​by​ ​tapping​ ​your​ ​cell​ ​phone. Efficient​ ​and​ ​convenient?​ ​Yes. Risky​ ​and​ ​problematic?​ ​If​ ​you’re​ ​reading​ ​this​ ​soundbite,​ ​the​ ​answer​ ​is​ ​probably​ ​“yes.” According​ ​to​ ​​American​ ​Banker​,​ ​a​ ​”very​ ​effective”​ ​payment​ ​approval​ ​takes​ ​no​ ​more​ ​than​ ​two seconds.​ ​Faster​ ​purchases​ ​often​ ​mean​ ​less​ ​thoughtful​ ​ones.​ ​​ ​​ ​These​ ​transactions​ ​are​ ​designed​ ​to be​ ​both​ ​fast​ ​and​ ​irrevocable.​ ​Fast​ ​payment​ ​approval​ ​offers​ ​no​ ​time​ ​to​… Continue reading Are You Making Payments Too Quickly?
  • Are You A $mart Woman?
    If you already consider yourself one, The $mart Women podcast series will help you maintain your smarts, and if you’re not, the series will help you become one. Sponsored by Payne Capital Management and hosted by Michelle McKinnon, the series seeks to help women “get smart” with their money and is a great resource.  Recently, I was a guest on this series and was able to go into depth on a variety of topics related to overshopping that may be of help to you and your loved ones. Listening to the Podcast Will Give You Insight Into: How to tell… Continue reading Are You A $mart Woman?
  • For Smart Cookies, Less Spending and More Saving is a Piece of Cake!
    How do you rationalize your overshopping and overspending? Do you talk to friends about this?   Do some of them do the same thing? Stopping overshopping and ending overspending can actually be easier when you’re joining with others that are facing the same challenges.  The “Smart Cookies” are a group of five young women that have proven this very point.  Inspired by Oprah’s Debt diet series, they came together with a common goal of less spending and more saving.  Weekly meetings and making small changes in their everyday routines resulted in enormous differences in their lives.  You might want to… Continue reading For Smart Cookies, Less Spending and More Saving is a Piece of Cake!
  • Are You Using This Prescription Drug? It Might Explain Your Compulsive Shopping
    Are you taking Aristada or Abilify? Have you begun to shop compulsively, or has your compulsive shopping gotten more pronounced? Both of these medications, sold under the generic name aripiprazole, have been associated with compulsive shopping and spending, as well as other compulsive behaviors such as binge eating, gambling, and sex. Until now the only side effect listed on the drug’s label was compulsive gambling, which according to the FDA, does not sufficiently convey the scope of what users could experience from using the drug.  Additionally, a class action suit has recently been launched on behalf of Canadian Abilify users.… Continue reading Are You Using This Prescription Drug? It Might Explain Your Compulsive Shopping
  • What Does Your Bank Look Like Naked?
    Imagine that your bank took truth serum one morning and when you went in for a loan that afternoon, they told you the real scoop about the massive debt they’re hoping you’ll accrue with no regard whatsoever as to whether you can ever pay it off. You’ve conjured up NakedTruthBank.com. Early this spring, I was contacted by Gregg Jackson, who introduced me to the new public service website he authored, which uses “parody, with eye-catching graphics and humorous text, to warn people about the hype and traps of consumer debt. It offers branded credit cards for every delusion; limitless student… Continue reading What Does Your Bank Look Like Naked?
  • Hypnosis Tapes for Compulsive Buying: One More Useful Tool
    Few of us still picture hypnosis as it was once featured; pocket watch pendulating, subject getting drowsy, trance induction. While hypnosis has undergone an enormous sea change in the last century, beginning with Freud, it’s therapeutic potential has been evident for over one hundred years. A long-standing arrow in our psychological quiver, the ways we apply hypnosis have continued to grow.  To date, hypnosis has been studied as an effective treatment for pain, anxiety, and mood disorders and has been shown to help individuals combat addictions and change longstanding undesirable habits. As a standalone treatment, it’s unlikely to hit a… Continue reading Hypnosis Tapes for Compulsive Buying: One More Useful Tool
  • The Ethics of Overcoming Shopping Addiction
    Overcoming overshopping does not only bring individual relief; it’s great for the whole world. In a recent article titled Everyday Ethical Changes Every Person Can Make for a Better World in 2016,  online news outlet Quartz has listed spending less as one of the top ways to make more ethical choices. Spending less is an ethical change almost all of us can stand to make. Through keeping our possessions for longer, repairing and recycling clothes instead of throwing them away, and, of course, shopping mindfully you’re doing something that benefits all of us. To read more click here
  • Are You Losing the “Rewards Game”?
    We live in a world where it is now common practice for airlines, hotels, and even credit cards to offer us perks to encourage us to spend money.   Using these programs may not always be as good of an investment as they seem. While healthy use of a reward program can be smart and effective, many people find themselves instead struggling against the pull of the “rewards game” and dangerously overspending.  To learn more, click here.
  • Are You Losing the “Rewards Game”?
    We live in a world where it is now common practice for airlines, hotels, and even credit cards to offer us perks to encourage us to spend money.   Using these programs may not always be as good of an investment as they seem. While healthy use of a reward program can be smart and effective, many people find themselves instead struggling against the pull of the “rewards game” and dangerously overspending.  To learn more, click here.
  • Getting and Giving the Right Kind of Support: What Overshoppers and their Loved Ones Need to Know!
    With the holidays fast approaching, overshoppers and overspenders are heading into some very rough waters. There’s temptation everywhere, and mega pressure to buy, buy, buy. How can you, someone who is struggling with impulses to overshop and overspend, get effective help from your support system? What can you, as a loved one, do or say to ease the pain that the holidays often bring to the surface? We recently came upon three excellent articles, written by the staff at the Center for Motivation and Change, that highlight the importance and impact of supportive relationships in three unique ways. The content… Continue reading Getting and Giving the Right Kind of Support: What Overshoppers and their Loved Ones Need to Know!
  • Can Shopping Transcend the Fear of Death?
    The world we live in is a confusing and chaotic place. News stories surprise and astound us daily—from the discovery of Genie, a child bound to a crib for 13 years, to claims of the next apocalypse. It is often difficult to wrap our mind around what happens in our world, our country, even in our town, which leaves us grasping for something contained and predictable: stuff. If we can’t control or even comprehend our world, at least we can control what we own. . Since the things that we buy will endure, we will endure too, the unconscious thinking goes. In… Continue reading Can Shopping Transcend the Fear of Death?
  • How to Avoid the “Perfect Storm” of August Shopping
    August is a time of huge seasonal pressure, when back-to-school deals, end-of-season sales and the fall fashion push all come together to create the perfect storm for overshopping. “Great deals” at the end of the season make it easy to think that stocking up for next summer makes a lot of sense, especially because the sales are so good. There are problems with this strategy, though. To read more, click here. Wishing you a relaxed, temperate end of summer, with no perfect storm in the forecast.
  • Does Sadness Bring Happiness or is that Inside Out?
    Compulsive buying, like so many other self-defeating habits and addictions, is often an attempt to anesthetize negative feelings, diminish their intensity, or suppress them altogether. Pixar’s latest film, Inside Out, trumpets the value of feeling all of our feelings, whether they are Anger, Sadness, Joy, Fear, or Disgust, the five feelings personified as characters in the movie, or any others. Inside Out has inspired dialogue among mental health professionals, many of whom admire the way inner conflict unfolds in the psyche of Riley, an 11-year old girl desperately trying to regain her cheery disposition despite the significant loss she feels,… Continue reading Does Sadness Bring Happiness or is that Inside Out?
  • A Look at Inside Out: Can Sadness Ultimately Bring Happiness?
    Compulsive buying, like so many other self-defeating habits and addictions, is often an attempt to anesthetize negative feelings, diminish their intensity, or suppress them altogether. Pixar’s latest film, Inside Out, trumpets the value of feeling all of our feelings, whether they are Anger, Sadness, Joy, Fear, or Disgust, the five feelings personified as characters in the movie, or any others. Inside Out has inspired dialogue among mental health professionals, many of whom admire the way inner conflict unfolds in the psyche of Riley, the 11-year old protagonist. Despite the significant loss she feels as a result of having moved across… Continue reading A Look at Inside Out: Can Sadness Ultimately Bring Happiness?
  • Is New Brain Research on Happiness Creating a Monster?
    You know the feeling. That little rush when your eye drifts to the ads on the side of your favorite social media page. Those little blurbs speak to your love of leather handbags, gourmet burgers, or tech gadgets. They call for just a quick click, a minute browse… and your credit card. Those ads – and that gleeful little rush of purchase pleasure – are no accident.   In fact, more and more social media outlets and retailers, large and small, are chomping at the bit to use what we’re learning from brain research to make us happier. More alarming, marketers… Continue reading Is New Brain Research on Happiness Creating a Monster?
  • What Stage of Change Are You In?
    Despite what you see when you look at your credit card bills or what you hear when a creditor calls, or what you see when you try to open your closet and stuff falls on you, do you still think that your shopping is under control? Have you begun to see the costs, financial and otherwise of your overspending, but still find yourself going back and forth about whether it’s really a problem? Are you preparing to take steps to curb your overspending? Do you have a plan in place that will help you stop overshopping? Have you mostly stopped… Continue reading What Stage of Change Are You In?
  • Are you Overshopping or Overspending? Personalized Text Messages Can Help
    Shopaholics and compulsive buyers have a new, affordable resource for help. Stopping Overshopping, LLC has just released an innovative, interactive text-messaging program that directs, inspires, and motivates shopping addicts to stop overshopping. The program is tailored specifically to each participant’s overshopping profile and it provides daily, personalized support when overshoppers need it the most. Text messaging programs have helped people with a variety of physical and mental health issues, including diabetes self-management, weight loss, physical activity, smoking cessation, and diminished alcohol consumption. Although this area of research and practice is relatively new, there has been consistent evidence that text messaging interventions, particularly those that use tailored messages and offer the… Continue reading Are you Overshopping or Overspending? Personalized Text Messages Can Help
  • Are You Giving Your Seasonal Shopaholic Credit Card Blanche?
    We’re smack dab in the middle of Chanukah and there’s less than a week until Christmas, still plenty of time to limit holiday overspending and bring more meaning and merriment into your life.  I’ve written a piece, published yesterday in the Huffington Post that just might help you have a good, not a goods holiday–and not wake up to a whopping post-holiday hangover! To read it, click here. At Stopping Overshopping, LLC, we are truly grateful for all the support you’ve shown us this year. Many of you open our broadcasts, make comments, send emails, and in other ways let us… Continue reading Are You Giving Your Seasonal Shopaholic Credit Card Blanche?
  • The Holidays are Coming! Happiness? You’ll have MORE if you Don’t Go to the Store!
    The holidays are coming. Not only do we begin brainstorming gifts for friends and family, we also think about our own wish list. Before you spend a whole lot of time, energy, and money in this pursuit, listen up. Research keeps showing us that the best and most satisfying presents don’t come in Santa’s big red bag. While it may seem that a better mousetrap will last a lot longer than concert tickets, it’s just not so. In his delightfully titled article, “Waiting for Merlot”, Cornell professor Thomas Gilovich reports “People think that experiences (money spent on doing) are only going to provide… Continue reading The Holidays are Coming! Happiness? You’ll have MORE if you Don’t Go to the Store!
  • A Bunch of Pretty Things I Did Not Buy
    We’ve been sharing news of women who’ve gone a year with buying new clothes for quite a while now, including Judith Levine, Alexis Hall and Jill Chivers.  Now, Sarah Lazarovic, a 35 year old Canadian woman has written and illustrated a charming book titled A Bunch of Pretty Things I Did Not Buy, about her particular brand of not buying any new clothes or accessories for a year. To read more about her, click here. To buy the book, click here. 
  • Are You Raising a Shopaholic? The Story of Four Kids Glorified for Overshopping
    Thanks to google alerts, I stumbled upon 12-Year Old Shopaholic and Other Big Spending Kids, an eye-opening and shudder-worthy British documentary, that aired this past June. Glorifying over-the-top spending, this 3-part series profiles four kids, ages 9 to 15 and their well-meaning, but confused and overindulgent parents whose own unresolved issues result in massive overspending, their financial fog so thick that even the one that blankets London can’t compete. As a psychologist who specializes in the study and treatment of shopping addiction, I found the documentary disturbing, selling, as it does, a bill of goods that proclaims, “whoever said money doesn’t buy… Continue reading Are You Raising a Shopaholic? The Story of Four Kids Glorified for Overshopping
  • 12 Year Old Shopaholics, and Other Big Spending Kids
  • Shopaholic Recovery Stories
    At Stopping Overshopping, LLC, we’re very interested in hearing recovery stories and reading about them. There is no one-size-fits-all method for taking control of your shopping and  spending. In fact, recovery stories come in all shapes and sizes and recovery can begin anytime, anyplace! We recently discovered three inspirational recovery stories—one overshopper is a writer whose journey to recovery was jumpstarted when she added up the cost of her wardrobe over the past ten years, the second is a woman who found that shopping for experiences through interesting travel was much more satisfying than shopping for more stuff she didn’t need… Continue reading Shopaholic Recovery Stories
  • Let’s Stop Smiling at the Smiled-Upon Addiction
    A piece for Paradigm magazine by April Lane Benson. Click here to access the complete issue online.    Whoever said that money can’t buy happiness didn’t know where to shop. Shopping makes for easy jokes. This post-it version hints at shopping as panacea, a magical elixir that promises more than it could ever deliver. Retailers seize any opportunity to prey on this fantasy. One of the most fashionable stores in New York City unabashedly mailed postcards to its customers, inviting them to a “psychotherapy sale,” urging them to bring in their emotional baggage to fill with mood-enhancing bargains. “Get in… Continue reading Let’s Stop Smiling at the Smiled-Upon Addiction
  • Male Shopaholics – The Truth
    By: Georgia Watson As you sign for the fifth package of the week, the courier smiles at you. “Shopping again, love?” You nod dutifully, not wanting to admit that the box belongs to your husband…they all do. We all joke about being shopaholics, especially after a splurge in the Zara sale, but how do you deal with a true shopping addict? And what if that addict was your husband, father or brother? A study from the American Journal of Psychiatry found that the percentage of women shopaholics was only marginally larger than that of male shopaholics. Out of 2,513 people… Continue reading Male Shopaholics – The Truth
  • Just-Published Study…
    The Stopping Overshopping Program Is Extremely Effective
    If you can’t stop yourself from yet one more costly trip to the mall, if you can’t resist the urge to splurge, no matter wherever and whenever it strikes, realistic hope is finally here. Our just-published study indicates that The Stopping Overshopping Program can significantly decrease the severity and the frequency of compulsive buying behavior. Following the 12-week treatment, clients spent significantly less time and money buying compulsively, and had significantly fewer compulsive buying episodes. Group members’ scores on four established compulsive buying measures went from solidly in the compulsive buying range before treatment to solidly in the normal buying range… Continue reading
    Just-Published Study…
    The Stopping Overshopping Program Is Extremely Effective
  • Can A Handbag Save You Money? You Might be Surprised.
    Millions of us and, and particularly shopaholics, are constantly buffeted by emotional waves that make it nigh on impossible to surf the urge to splurge. Mix in high-risk times and venues, credit card in hand, and it’s essentially a wipeout. Australian comparison website creditcardfinder.com.au, has devised a novel, potentially very effective, and time sensitive solution to stabilize us: the iBag. The iBag was conceived as a response to what Michelle Hutchison, one of the bag’s developers, described as the “shocking” results of a survey of over 1500 adult Australian credit card holders. Fully one-quarter of Australians don’t pay off their… Continue reading Can A Handbag Save You Money? You Might be Surprised.
  • Compulsive Buying Disorder Can Be Deadly
    Whenever I talk about compulsive buying and get the feeling, either from some nonverbal cue or from what my listener actually says, that he or she just doesn’t see the dangers, I cringe. “That’s an addiction?” one asks. “Are there really that many people who do this?” queries another. “It’s not serious like an eating disorder, or drug addiction or alcoholism.  People die from those,” a therapist tells me. Not so. Soon after his father’s death in 2008, James Hammond, who was fourteen at the time, became depressed and started developing a shopping addiction, buying clothes and starting to spend… Continue reading Compulsive Buying Disorder Can Be Deadly
  • Treatment for Brain-Injury Related Compulsive Buying May Hold Promise for Other Overshoppers
      Compulsive buying can be uncontrollable, especially if it’s a result of brain injury that affects brain circuitry associated with impulse, desire, will, and restraint. According to Dr. Max Gomez in a recent CBS report, this connection was first made when a drug called Nuedexta, which is FDA approved to treat uncontrollable laughter or crying after a brain injury, was given to two women who suffered head trauma and then started buying compulsively. Both women reported an astonishing reduction in compulsive buying behaviors after taking the medication. Might this drug successfully treat compulsive buyers who haven’t suffered a brain injury? To read… Continue reading Treatment for Brain-Injury Related Compulsive Buying May Hold Promise for Other Overshoppers
  • What Aging Has to Tell Us About Fashion
    While we traditionally make relatively short-term New Year’s resolutions, it’s also when many of our thoughts turn to aging, that unavoidable measure of the passage of time. Along with the inevitable decline of some of our faculties, there’s often – at least for septuagenarians and even older seniors – an increased clarity about whom we are and what is important to us. Aging can even tell us a lot about fashion. Two well-made, well-researched documentaries about fashion that made very different fashion statements were broadcast this past fall: Revealing: Extravagance on the Sundance Channel that was narrated by Joe Zee,… Continue reading What Aging Has to Tell Us About Fashion
  • Merry Shopping and a Happy New Car?
    I’ve heard holiday come-ons before, but these take the cake. Last week, a friend told me that a few years ago, in the midst of the holiday season, she received a circular in the mail with the words “Merry Shopping, and a Happy New Car” bolded, italicized, in big red and green block letters, splayed across the front page. At first she couldn’t believe anyone would stoop to such a materialistic play, or more accurately, ploy. Her young son wondered too. “Why did they say shopping instead of Christmas and car instead of Year, Mom?” Here was a teachable moment—a way to show her… Continue reading Merry Shopping and a Happy New Car?
  • Can Ethical Clothing Help Transform Your Relationship with Shopping?
    “I have never been addicted to shopping. And yet I am all too familiar with the overwhelmingly strong pull followed by disgust and self-hatred, with the guilt, with the complete lack of joy in what I consumed.” So begins Emma’s guest post on Recovering Shopaholic, “Can Ethical Clothing Transform Your Relationship with Shopping?”  When peoples’ shopping and buying behavior are resonant with their values, an unhealthy relationship with shopping  can be  transformed into a highly satisfying one, argues Emma.  Ethical fashion,  fashion that’s not produced by child labor, in sweatshops or in such a way that our environmental resources are overstretched,  is better for the… Continue reading Can Ethical Clothing Help Transform Your Relationship with Shopping?
  • Hard-Wired for Giving?
    Classical economic theory and the Darwinian principle of “survival of the fittest” both suggest that self-centeredness is the way to succeed. Edging out the competition, selfish people take the best mates and the best resources, goes the theory. However, new scientific studies suggest that instead, humans are actually hard-wired to be altruistic. Why? One school of thought holds that altruism exists to insure the survival of close kin. Another suggest that helping may maximize the survival odds of every member of a society. To improve your own prospects by contributing to the well-being of a strong collective sounds pretty Utopian. Several… Continue reading Hard-Wired for Giving?
  • Conscious Shopping
    Are your emotions in the driver’s seat when you go shopping, only to leave your brain in charge later with those feelings of guilt or regret? Instead of being a shopaholic, how can we be more conscious shoppers? Conscious shopping makes you feel good about each stage of shopping, before, during, and after, without having to justify it to yourself. One way to do this is the “pick just one strategy.” Rather than impulse buying a few things at different stores that you just “have to have,” make a conscious effort to pick just one thing. Chances are you’ll be… Continue reading Conscious Shopping
  • Is An Addiction To Shopping Ruining Your Marriage?
    Can you relate to this man’s story? He is a stay at home dad with a good part time job. He has three kids and has been married for over 20 years. He’s had an addiction to shopping for just as long. She makes most of the money and he’s racked up a “mountain of debt.” She wants to end the marriage. He understands, but it makes him sad. What to do? The first step would be to get help for shopping addiction. If his wife loves him and he genuinely works to better his habits, she may give the relationship… Continue reading Is An Addiction To Shopping Ruining Your Marriage?
  • How Many Clothes are Enough?
    It’s fairly easy to find out how much is too much when it comes to clothes. Overflowing closets and overstuffed drawers that are impossible to shut are a pretty good clue! But when you’re a recovering shopaholic, downsizing your wardrobe can be the hardest part. For many people, it can seem like having more clothes is the only way you can be well dressed for every occasion. But how much is really enough? One way to find out might be to track what you actually wear and don’t wear. Donate what you don’t wear– I know, you’re thinking “but what… Continue reading How Many Clothes are Enough?
  • Be the One to Stop Shopping Addiction
    Can’t help shopping, but need to stop? What is there to do to quit this habit? In the words of a former shopping addict “it all starts with you.” Admit to yourself you have a problem. The piles of unused items in your house are probably already trying to tell you this. Many people justify their shopping habits by calling it “retail therapy.” This is probably the most pernicious way shopping addiction perpetuate itself. So say no retail therapy. Instead ask yourself if you can actually live without something you’re thinking of buying.  
  • Council Clerk’s Shopping Addiction Lands Her in Jail
    An A U.K. council clerk has been jailed for forging checks worth nearly $200,000 to feed her shopping addiction. Her scheme, getting legitimate checks signed by the council, then heating them up to wipe off the payee’s name, which she’d written in a special ink, and substitute in her own, was pretty clever. She managed to keep this up from 2007 to 2012.  It wasn’t until some of the town council’s accounts started going in the red that any wrongdoing was noticed. The clerk had spent most of her life working with integrity in the public sector, until a shopping… Continue reading Council Clerk’s Shopping Addiction Lands Her in Jail
  • How do you Shopaholic?
    Some shopaholics get a rush from making a big purchase. Others are addicted to getting a good deal, even if it’s on something they don’t really need. Which category do you fall in? A poll shows that an overwhelming amount of Indian consumers prefer to spend time looking for a deal: only 21% of Indian consumers value making quick efficient purchases at a higher cost. Women are slightly more likely than men to shop around for a bargain before making a purchase. Unfortunately, the poll did not specify how much more money someone would be willing to pay for convenience or… Continue reading How do you Shopaholic?
  • Placebo your Way out of Shopping Addiction?
    Is there a placebo for shopping? Taking a sugar pill doesn’t seem likely to help with online shopping addiction, but the Placebo Method is a way of overcoming shopaholism with small steps that you can start implementing right away. The aim is to avoid the stress, guilt, and other negative feelings that come with addiction. Positive thinking is the first step. The next step, and perhaps the most placebo-like part, is replacing your online shopping time with something more productive. Why not try a new hobby, like writing or drawing. Not many supplies are needed, and you might find this… Continue reading Placebo your Way out of Shopping Addiction?
  • Shopping Addiction: Avoidance Behavior
    If you’re a shopping addict and a procrastinator, these two activities are probably linked. Think about when you indulge in your shopping addiction. Is it when you’re particularly stressed out about something? Avoidance behavior is the more clinical term for procrastination; it’s what we do to avoid something stressful. Maybe you’re doing online shopping when you should be focusing on a big paper or project? It’s easier to focus your attention on something that makes you happy rather than something that’s stressful, but what ever it is you’re trying to avoid can’t be put off forever! Read the entire article… Continue reading Shopping Addiction: Avoidance Behavior
  • Shopaholic No More Voted #1 Blog for Compulsive Shoppers
    With so many sites available to help the millions of Americans suffering from shopping addiction, we are very proud to announce that Shopaholic No More has been named the number one site for shopaholics by badcredit.org! We’re approaching the 4,000 followers’ mark, which makes us almost twice as turned-to as other popular blogs for sufferers of the disorder. Perhaps this is because Shopaholic No More is one of the only sites operated by a licensed psychologist, though the blogs from former shopaholics are also valuable. We’re glad you’ve chosen Shopaholic No More, as we truly believe our resources and content… Continue reading Shopaholic No More Voted #1 Blog for Compulsive Shoppers
  • Curbing Shopping Tendencies
    Stacy Johnson of MoneyTalks had a great phrase for describing over shopping: “When your purchases shift from impulsive to compulsive, you might be a shopping addict.” Psychologists often label it “compulsive buying disorder.” Like other impulse-control issues, such as binge eating or gambling, whatever you decide to call shopaholism, it can easily spiral out of control and cause serious financial as well as emotional distress. One way to curtail over spending is to make a list of what you need to buy and approximate costs. Leave your credit card behind and carry only this amount of cash.  Ask Stacy: How… Continue reading Curbing Shopping Tendencies
  • When the Going gets Tough, the Materialistic go Shopping
    Materialists, people who attach an excessive amount of importance to physical things, tend to experience more stress from traumatic events. This combined with a generally low self esteem, materialistic people tend to be compulsive shoppers. This conclusion comes out of a study done on two different Israeli towns, one that was under a terrorist attack and one that wasn’t. Study leader Ayalla Ruvio says that the relationship between post-traumatic stress and materialism occurs in a wider context than just potentially life-threatening events, and there is important research to be done regarding the issue. Any person who has suffered from shopaholism will… Continue reading When the Going gets Tough, the Materialistic go Shopping
  • Lexapro and Compulsive Shopping
    Many people who suffer from shopaholism do so as a result of other mental problems, particularly depression.  Lexapro, the drug which is not uncommonly prescribed by doctors to treat severe depression and generalized anxiety disorder, might have a positive correlation to a reduction in compulsive shopping. A study by eHealthMe used FDA reports of over 32,000 Lexapro users seems to show that after 6 months of taking the drug, compulsive shopping decreases dramatically. Don’t mistake this for a wonder drug, however, as the conditions that engender shopaholism don’t always require one to go on medication for depression. Read the entire… Continue reading Lexapro and Compulsive Shopping
  • Finding a Way to Deal with Shopping Addiction
    Everyone has their own pathway to healing, and getting help from all kinds of sources can aid you in finding your own way. If you’re trying to stop over shopping, keep in mind that just because something worked for a friend or a blogger you like, it’s not guaranteed to help you. But it may be something to try, or spark an idea that really does work for you. It might be something as simple as making a list. A “love to do (instead of shopping)” list may help you stay focused and motivate you to direct your energies to… Continue reading Finding a Way to Deal with Shopping Addiction
  • Survey says: High Percentage of Americans at Risk for Shopaholism
    This month, CreditDonkey surveyed over 1,000 Americans about their shopping habits and payment preferences. The results suggest that a significant percentage of consumers display many of the shopaholism indicators. The biggest red flag is feeling a rush of excitement after making a purchase, which nearly half of all responders felt! Another is feeling guilt after shopping, something over 36 percent of responders said they experienced. Almost the same percentage of people frequently bought things just because they were on sale, and most of those people have items in their closet with the tags still on! Read the entire article here:… Continue reading Survey says: High Percentage of Americans at Risk for Shopaholism
  • Does Your Husband Know about Your Shopping Addiction?
    Many married women who suffer from shopping addiction have worked out strategies of hiding their purchases from their husbands. While you might be able to justify a thousand dollar handbag to yourself as an “investment,” chances are hubby won’t see it that way. Do you find yourself doing things like taking tags off new items and telling him you got them second hand? Have you been telling him they were gifts or that you bought them on discount websites like Overstock? The final question is: Is a Chanel bag worth losing trust in your marriage? Read the entire article here:… Continue reading Does Your Husband Know about Your Shopping Addiction?
  • Break the Backsliding Habits
    When it comes to moving through a shopping addiction, and even bad shopping behavior, it can be a long process that involves alternating between “good” and “bad” behavior. You may be doing really well for some time, staying within budgets and sticking to your goals. And then (maybe slowly at first) you find yourself backsliding into old behaviors. If you go back and forth between progress and backsliding, the key to getting your habits in check is holding yourself accountable. This might mean taking your credit card off shopping sites or even blocking those sites altogether. But over time you… Continue reading Break the Backsliding Habits
  • Retail Therapy is a Ruse
    There is an interesting phenomenon going on in our American culture these days, centered around shopping. This is the idea of “retail therapy,” a popular notion that when you’re feeling blue, shopping is a great pick-me-up. In fact, the term oversimplifies and minimizes the serious problem of a shopping addiction. Additionally, it suggests that shopping actually works as therapy, and that numbing your pain with retail therapy is an option instead of actually dealing with it. On mugs, t-shirts, calendars, and all around us there are “cutesy” quotes about shopping, further emphasizing the view that a shopping addiction doesn’t have to… Continue reading Retail Therapy is a Ruse
  • Shopping Addiction Statistics
    Shopping addictions can be different from other addictions, in that the line between normal behavior and addictive behavior may not only be a fine one, but hard to spot. Additionally, the signs of addiction can even exist to a certain extent before a full on addiction develops. For example, a recent survey finds that over 30 percent of respondents “almost always” or “frequently” make some purchases just because they are on sale. Nearly 20 percent says after a shopping trip, they often return with items they didn’t need or plan for. While they may seem small and insignificant, these little behaviors… Continue reading Shopping Addiction Statistics
  • Curb Compulsive Spending Habits
    Compulsive spending comes from deeper psychological issues combined with a lack of good money management. Even the most materialistic people can avoid racking up the credit card debt with good money management. Shopaholics use spending as a way to soothe their anxieties and problems instead of facing them directly. Credit cards make such retail therapy extra easy, and shopaholics may turn a blind eye to their ever-growing debt and credit score. Fortunately, there is help out there for anyone facing a shopping addiction and severe money mismanagement. For severe cases, counseling and professional help are the best options for getting… Continue reading Curb Compulsive Spending Habits
  • Why Do Materialists Worry About Their Finances?
    How tightly someone manages their money is not always an accurate meter for how wisely they spend it, especially in the case of materialists and compulsive spenders. These types of people generally emphasize the importance of money and being financially successful. On the flip side, they are also more likely to be unsatisfied with their own finances and standard of living. This can translate into compensation by overspending to combat feelings of insecurity and inadequacy. It can be hard to face a problem like this head on, but avoidance will only prolong the problem. Observe your feelings on your finances… Continue reading Why Do Materialists Worry About Their Finances?
  • The Cost of Buying to Cope
    It’s no surprise – life can be tough. Whether in work, relationships, or other areas of life when we are thrown a curveball, it is natural to want to find a way to cope. For some people, this means retail therapy. Unfortunately, shopping away your problems comes at a cost that is greater than what comes out of your wallet. If you’re spending frivolously to try and deal with your problems, you won’t have money for what you really need – including real, more productive therapy. Spending will only add stress instead of really solving anything, so it’s important to… Continue reading The Cost of Buying to Cope
  • Why Do Shopping Addicts Keep Spending Their Money?
    According to their self-report, about 10% of all adults in western countries report themselves as displaying compulsive buying symptoms. How to explain the proliferation of this behavior; why does 10%  of the western world continue to overshop in the face of debt, seriously compromised relationships, guilt, shame, anxiety and deteriorating self-worth? Ryan Howell, Associate Professor of Psychology at San Francisco State University and co-founder of beyondthepurchase.org, had the same question. He and his students conducted research to investigate. After collecting data on money management, shopping habits, and perceived value of material goods, Howell and students discovered that poor money and… Continue reading Why Do Shopping Addicts Keep Spending Their Money?
  • Lying About Your Shopping Habits to the People You Love
    When your spending is out of control, it can wear you down emotionally and put a strain on your relationships. Even if it doesn’t come directly from your debt, it could be out of shame for your actions, causing you to hide your secret addiction from the people you love. If you’re embarrassed about your spending habits, it may be a wake-up call that it’s time for a change. The people you love want to help and support you, and shutting them out is only going to create distance in your relationship. No matter what, it’s important to remember that… Continue reading Lying About Your Shopping Habits to the People You Love
  • The Power of Fear
    Fear is a deep human emotion that affects everyone in many different ways. For those struggling with a shopping addiction and compulsive shopping habits, fear manifests more uniquely. There is a fear that even a brief pause from shopping means missing out on a great deal or a hot new fashion or trend. There is a fear of facing the emotions that trigger compulsive spending, and a fear that change and recovery are beyond reach. Fear may exist instinctively as a protective measure, but it can also hold you back. Recognizing and facing your fear is the only way to… Continue reading The Power of Fear
  • New Mobile Apps Can Fuel a Shopping Addiction
    With the rise of smartphones and mobile web technology, it is easier than ever to stay connected with the world. Not surprisingly, the reverse is also true – it is easier for the world to connect with you, too. For those struggling with a shopping addiction, this means one more medium for making purchases. Retailers are keenly aware of this, and are making shopping on a mobile device incredibly easy. There is even a way to scan a credit card with your phone camera to make a purchase. Shopaholics should be especially wary of mobile shopping apps or else they… Continue reading New Mobile Apps Can Fuel a Shopping Addiction
  • Get to the Bottom of Compulsive Spending Habits
    A shopping addiction, like any addiction, takes a great effort and level of perseverance to work through. In this modern world, we are constantly bombarded with messages to spend more and buy the latest and greatest products. Not surprisingly, this makes dealing with compulsive spending habits even more difficult. Understanding the behavior that comes along with compulsive shopping is an important step in being able to learn to live with a shopping addiction, and eventually overcoming it. For most shopaholics, there is a deep psychological drive to use spending to deal with emotion and anxiety that needs to be addressed… Continue reading Get to the Bottom of Compulsive Spending Habits
  • I Love You… Again!
    For many people – especially women – a driving force behind overshopping can be the need for a wide variety of new and different products and stimulation. When you think about it, shopping can be a very stimulating activity and might be a key point for people who shop to avoid boredom. But it is important to remember all the variety and richness you already have in your life (and your closet). Shopping for “preloved” items can fulfill the need for new pieces in your wardrobe, and you can “upcycle” your own items for a fresh fashion burst without the… Continue reading I Love You… Again!
  • Why Do Shopping Addicts Keep Spending Their Money?
    To the outsider looking in, a shopping addiction is probably a strange and difficult thing to understand. People might wonder why they just don’t stop spending so much money if their debt is so bad. Unfortunately, a shopping addiction goes much deeper than just deciding to spend excessively. Addicts often have an underlying psychological issue that is soothed by shopping, accompanied by the idea that their purchases will make their life better. This mindset can be altered if the psychological struggle is addressed as well. For shopping addicts, there is always hope to get better and get back on track.… Continue reading Why Do Shopping Addicts Keep Spending Their Money?
  • Beating an Online Shopping Addiction
    Maybe if shopping were limited to having to get to a store to make your purchases, it would be easier to quell an addiction. Unfortunately, the wide world of the internet makes it easy to purchase anything and everything right from the comfort of your own home, any time of day or night. If your shopping addiction is primarily focused on internet purchases, it can be even tougher to break. Sitting down and looking at your finances and how your shopping may be pushing them is a good first step, but seeking help from a therapist is the most effective… Continue reading Beating an Online Shopping Addiction
  • Seeking Therapy for Shopping Addiction
    Shopping addiction is not cute, whimsical, or funny. It is more than just spending too much, and it actually comes down being a way for some people to deal with psychological difficulty. Simple overspending tendencies can be a gateway to an addiction, especially if shopping is a way to cope with difficult emotions such as anger or anxiety. When it comes to compulsive shopping, therapy helps get to the real root of the problem instead of just treating the symptoms. Each person is different and needs a unique approach to help them end their shopping addiction and their underlying issues.… Continue reading Seeking Therapy for Shopping Addiction
  • Confessions of  Shopaholics
    Deceit, debt and depression plague the lives of the shopping addicted. Sufferers can shop their way into despair and broken relationships while our materialistic world smiles on their behavior because there are no outward signs of a problem. The American Psychiatric Association doesn’t name compulsive shopping as an addiction, although millions of Americans face shopping related bankruptcy, divorce, and incarceration. The burden of the disorder can lead to such psychological disruption that some addicts cannot bear the humiliation of their circumstances and actually end their lives. The need to purchase items is ever present, and like a food addict who… Continue reading Confessions of  Shopaholics
  • 5 Ways to Beat Your Shopping Addiction
    Have you stared at the receipt in your hand and wondered how you could have spent so much? Have you told yourself that bills might go unpaid if you made a purchase and bought it anyway? Shopaholics experience a lot of shame and constantly review the illogical nature of their compulsion. Unfortunately, shaming and logic do little to address emotional pain at the heart of a shopaholic lifestyle. To beat shopping addiction, identify and document your shopping triggers, analyzing emotional and relational needs that shopping fills. Replace shopping with a healthier activity or habit and change your atmosphere to alleviate… Continue reading 5 Ways to Beat Your Shopping Addiction
  • The Cure for Shopping Addicts
    If your self-esteem, self confidence, or self-worth seems tangled up in the tissue paper of your last pair of designer shoes or firmly tucked in the pocket of your latest handbag, chances are compulsive shopping, overspending, and even hoarding may be part of your everyday life. Getting a handle on the emotional deprivation that plagues you could be the key to healing the hole in your heart and the drain on your wallet. Nonjudgmental help from a family member or a money manager can help bring splurging to a halt.  Also consider therapy, medication, or a twelve-step program to help… Continue reading The Cure for Shopping Addicts
  • Beat Your Shopping Addiction
    Shopping just seems so innocent and fun, it’s hard to believe it can spiral out of control into a full-blown addiction. If you get caught in this dangerous whirlwind, there are ways to beat your shopping addiction. Start with what triggers you to shop. For many, it is an intense emotion that pushes the urge to go shopping. From this, you can understand what emotional need shopping fills for you. Then take shopping out of that equation and replace it with a healthier way to fill that need, and even avoid your favorite shopping haunts completely. Finally, find a support… Continue reading Beat Your Shopping Addiction
  • Are You a Shopaholic?
    A shopping addiction can really sneak up on you. Many shopping addicts do not even care about what they buy as much as the feeling they get when they buy. If you suspect you may be a compulsive spender, step back and take a look at your habits. Do you spend money when you feel disappointed, angry, or scared? Do you find yourself in arguments with close friends and family about your spending habits? Are money, spending, and bills always on your mind? These points and more may suggest a shopping addiction, and the sooner you seek help, the sooner… Continue reading Are You a Shopaholic?

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